June 20th, 2019
I want to dedicate this blog post to him.
My dad is a natural born Capricorn who is the oldest of five brothers. He grew up in Hong Kong and worked as a taxi driver. Until he immigrated to Canada with my mom 23 years ago. My dad is not the most educated man but he definitely works very hard and is a very loving father.
I’ve never really connected with my dad on a deeper level, though I do know he loves me deeply. I just think he has a very weird way of showing it as he is a bit of a hopeless sentimentalist.
It’s been hard to try to communicate with him especially with the language barrier and the huge cultural gap. One of the most vivid memories I have with my dad and cannabis was the time he found a half-smoked joint in the garbage and literally unleashed wrath on me that I would never forget. I can’t even begin to tell you how shocked I was at his reaction since he was a cigarette smoker and a beer drinker. I thought I could expect more openness from him, but I guess that’s where the parental double standards are. So I never made it clear to him what my career ambitions were until very recently.
Here’s my ‘coming out’ conversation with my father.
My dad is against it and his opinions of the flower is based on what he’s heard from everyone around him. Specifically, the cultural influence from his upbringing that stems from pride towards imperialism. Almost like a stance he’s taking against western cultural influence on drugs. I also learned that my dad has never tried it – I don’t know if I believe that.
I didn’t have a goal to try to persuade or change my dad’s mind about cannabis nor did I think that it would be effective. I decided to tell him about the health and wellness aspect of cannabis, specifically how the plant can help with inflammation in the body – something my dad can relate to and could potentially take advantage of. I also wanted him to know that it is still a very young industry that needs more time to develop before being cast out with negative responses.
I was pleasantly surprised.
He was more open than I would have expected. I didn’t know that he would be so calm when I told him that I was standing with cannabis legalization. I also told him about my career goals in the cannabis space, specifically that I am working in the industry and want to become an entrepreneur. He was pleasantly forward about giving his two-cents about working in the business – ‘don’t delay anymore, just get it done’. This honestly made me very happy, but I couldn’t help but wonder if my dad was only ok with me working in the cannabis industry but not ok with consuming it.
It was a good coming out conversation with the main man in my life! I’m pleasantly surprised and very optimistic about the future. I can’t express how happy I am to just receive a calm response of openness and support. Now, if I can only persuade my dad to replace his cigarettes with joints. Keep your fingers crossed for me Blunt B.A.E’s!